If we get a dime every time we get this question, we’re probably rich by now.
Titas get asked by their older titas or any older relative when they’re going to marry – a taunting question, especially in family reunions.
“The clock is ticking. You should find a lifetime partner soon!” – as if that’s our only mission in this world.
How do you respond to this question?
Honestly, it takes emotional maturity to articulate an appropriate but still respectful statement. We’ve come up with the following ways:
1. Respond with another question.
Next time someone asks you when you’re going to marry, you can ignore the question and instead ask another question stirring the original topic to a new topic.
Older tita: Hija, when are you going to marry? The clock is ticking na?
You: Tita, how’s that chacha class going? I saw your Facebook a few days ago!
2. Start the conversation.
Before they even open their mouth, how about starting a conversation that’s about them? Make it as positive as possible.
You: Auntie, you look gorgeous in that dress!
3. Turn around and walk away.
If any of the above doesn’t work, and they still insist on asking you, there is an option of turning around and walking away. Remember to excuse yourself politely and gracefully.
Uncle: Hija, when are you going to marry? The clock is ticking na?
You: Excuse me, uncle, I need to go to the toilet. Let me get back to you, all right?
4. Breathe in and out, smile, and answer confidently.
Let’s admit it. Most of the time, it’s hard to avoid nor escape this question. The best thing you can do is to respond with conviction.
Older auntie: Hija, when are you going to marry? The clock is ticking na?
You: I’m sorry, but I’m not comfortable with this question. I don’t have any plans yet. Can we change the topic?
That’s it, ladies! There’s no need to make rants or ghost a relative because you felt offended with their questions. Even if you get married, they will always have a way of questioning you on your next move, anyway. In your next reunion, remember to keep your cool!
You can also listen to the Episode 3 of our podcast on the topic below: